Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. I was hanging out with Mattie & Jaya’s cat last night so life could be worse, is what I’m saying.

Photo: Frog, who is a little tabby cat, sleeping belly-up on a colorful chair
Speaking of Matti...
2025-03-16 20:55:33 +0000 UTC
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Hope you’re all hanging in there. I am feeling physically bad (sick) but mentally well (gay supremacy on the Traitors) so I’ll take it.
First of all, I’m thrilled to announce our Chicago and Minneapolis Gender Ordeal shows! We’ll be in Chicago on Thursday, April 24, at a venue called Color Club. I think maybe it’s not in an amazing location(?) but we are flying all the way from ...
2025-03-08 22:19:03 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Sorry, I let the newsletter get away from me a bit, lol. Here's everything I meant to mention before I accidentally wrote a whole thing about some Instagram user named John.
This week on Gender Conceal, Ozzy and I spoke with Palestinian organizer Yaffa! I particularly appreciated their insight into the Pomona student encampments, and why their strategies were so succes...
2025-02-28 22:19:38 +0000 UTC
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Hey everyone,
Hope you’re all hanging in there.
To get straight to the point: I know that the news is very very bad and everyone wants to feel like they can make a difference by l...
2025-02-28 20:47:04 +0000 UTC
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This month, Tuck and Ozzy chat with activist Yaffa (they/she). Topics include:
Strategies for exceptionally effective student organizing (as seen at the Pomona encampments)
How Yaffa's family's departure from Palestine impacted their gender, and what they learned about gender from Palestinian elders
How all of the anti-trans laws in the global north ...
2025-02-24 08:00:12 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. Thank you so so much to everyone for all of the Chicago & Minneapolis venue recommendations. I have now sent emails to various venues and expect to hear back in a quick 10 to 955 business days.
In the meantime, can we talk about this month’s interview with Vera Blossom? This one has everything: Bathhouses, pigeons, Shrek, Las Ve...
2025-02-22 17:52:19 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you're all hanging in there. I was going to write a whole big newsletter on the plane, but they once again took away the WiFi and the movies on my cross-country flight, presumably to see what happens when I'm alone with my thoughts. (Answer: nothing good!)
I got home from tour one (1) hour ago, and I gotta leave the house in about 15 minutes, so in lieu of a newsl...
2025-02-16 22:46:42 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. I leave for Gender Ordeal tour tomorrow and I am stressed about getting everything ready, but wow, it’s so nice to feel stressed about something fun instead of the ongoing government takeover/societal collapse! :)
We talked about 2025-02-09 05:19:11 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there (lol). I’ve spent the day alternately learning line dances and trying to figure out what’s going on with the government. Hard to know which one feels sillier. But hey, what else can you do?
Actually. Many people are asking. Let’s try to figure it out? (I entered journalism in the golden age of listicles so I started writing a lis...
2025-02-02 21:27:14 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re hanging in there. I was home sick for several days and have reemerged absolutely feral for human interaction.
And speaking of!!!! Would you like to interact THIS FRIDAY? I will be at Union Stage and I would love to see you!!!!! Can...
2025-01-27 04:11:19 +0000 UTC
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This month, Tuck chats with Matalie and Calvino about what the Gender Ordeal live show actually is and why they agreed to do it. Topics also include:
Following the AccuWeather FuckCast to Lodge City, Kansas
Performing a freestyle rap as [redacted] in Gender-Swapped Holes
Revealing Mattie’s secret tour talent (good!) and Tuck’s secret Travel Zone (...
2025-01-21 12:00:08 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. This week on the show — truly cannot believe it was this week, so much has happened??? — I spoke with Devin Myers about Basketdolls, Florida, Dwayne Wade, various Wallaces, and the gay Cracker Barrel of Tallahassee.
This interview really made me wish we could bring back Who Wants To Hoop! Alas, RIP to the merch store. (I still use...
2025-01-20 01:13:03 +0000 UTC
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(Note: when I previewed this newsletter, gmail blocked all the images as "suspicious or spam," presumably because Pippa Garner is too cool. You should be able to click to show images if you choose.)
Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. If you or your loved ones are impacted by the fires in Los Angeles, please know that you’re in my thoughts.
We’re putting out <...
2025-01-12 14:53:55 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. It’s a new year, which means that, among other things, I’m entering my eighth year of Gender Revealing! Not to get sentimental on ya, but truly, thank you so much for being here and supporting the work that we’ve been doing all this time. What a joy and a gift to have this as my job! Your support and trust really means the world to me...
2025-01-04 04:18:30 +0000 UTC
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This month, Tuck chats with comedian Sunny Zimmerman (they/them). Topics include:
Why do nonbinaries keep making comedic plays about historical figures adjacent to assassinated presidents?? (And which show came first???)
Exploring yr relationship to masculinity alongside yr friend who is not only a Conventionally Hot Guy but also a Pants Influencer
An...
2024-12-30 14:24:19 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. This week, instead of Links & Stuff, we’ve got Lists & Stats! I fudged a couple numbers because we’ve got one more Gender Conceal episode coming out tomorrow and also the grants haven’t been all paid out — hey btw if anyone is good at sending money to Nigeria or Cameroon lmk lol, it’s so confusing to me — but assuming al...
2024-12-29 21:57:03 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. My go-to soup recipes? Thanks for asking: my favorite is this Tuscan white bean soup, but I’ve also made this lentil soup a few times lately because if some guy ate it 2024-12-22 19:29:50 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’ve all been hanging in there. You might think this newsletter is late, but joke’s on you: I’m on the west coast and it’s only 9pm here. (I actually intended to write this a few days ago on a plane, but the only thing I really wanted to write about was the Italian woman sitting next to me, who a) seemed to openly hate me immediately b) sneezed wetly all over m...
2024-12-16 05:48:09 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. I still haven’t finished tomorrow’s episode soooo let’s get right to the main event! Well, first, disclaimers:
None of this is paid promo! Some of these people are my friends but mostly they are not.
I own stuff from most of these people but not every single one! Ymmv!
Not all of these peopl...
2024-12-09 00:11:08 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. How’s your inbox? Normal? I do not generally recognize this week’s ~holiday~ but I did celebrate the true reasons for the season: listening to the new episode of Death Blart and watching 2024-12-01 23:01:04 +0000 UTC
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This month, Ozzy and Tuck tackle advice questions from the archive. Topics include dating for the first time, choosing one person to eat, getting back into domming, going braless at work, bringing back the orchi barn, brainstorming nonbinary tattoos, a...
2024-11-25 05:01:02 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re hanging in there. Absolutely unhinged for me to send this on a Friday night after waiting for weeks, but look, sometimes I don’t think things through.
We’ve been working for months to book the rest of the Gender Ordeal tour, and unfortunately, one specific venue/date has been continually delaying our Full Official Announcement. However, I’m ...
2024-11-22 23:12:17 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. (I sort of forgot that I started saying this in late 2017, but it’s all making sense now.)
This week on the show, I chatted with the wonderful River Gallo about:
Hey friends,
Say it with me: hope you’re all hanging in there(!!!!).
The newsletters I’ve received this week have all been titled, like, “Well, this sucks” and “What We’re Facing” and “What to do now” and “2024-11-11 01:50:38 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. Time to have a very :) normal :) week :) !
But first! Our Boston Gender Ordeal live show is tomorrow at 5pm! It’s going to be a marathon travel day for us — maybe I shouldn’t call it a marathon because the actual New York Marathon is also tomorrow, but that’s actually part of the reason why I have to leave NYC at like 7am lolo...
2024-11-02 18:31:20 +0000 UTC
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This month, Tuck chats with visual artist and author Rani Som (she/her). Topics include:
Kate Bush and her powerful influence
Rani’s currently-in-progress name change
Exploring the inevitable failure of trans utopia
Searching for a feeling of home as a diasporic South Asian trans femme
Writing books about queer women (p...
2024-10-28 11:00:11 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. So much to say this week! First of all, it’s a great time for new music — Katie Gavin, Soccer Mommy, Pom Pom Squad, and Halsey all put out new albums yesterday, for example — but instead of listening to any of it, I’ve been retooling the same Halloween playlist I’ve been slowly growing for the last, idk, twelve years? (I did final...
2024-10-26 19:21:21 +0000 UTC
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Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there. I’m spending the evening at home for the first time in two weeks — a quick recharge before I bop over to Philly to celebrate Mckenzee. Everyone say HAPPY BIRTHDAY MCKENZEE!!!!!
Most of my projects are in the “wait and see” phase right now. I’m currently waiting on:
Hey friends,
Hope you’re all hanging in there, staying safe and dry. I’m once again encouraging donations to Mutual Aid Disaster Relief or any of these mutual aid efforts. (2024-10-13 00:14:03 +0000 UTC
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All of the books mentioned in our 10/7 episode, plus a few that we missed! Starred authors have been interviewed on Gender Reveal and/or Gender Conceal. Feel free to add additional titles in the comments :)
[Edit: I've realized the hyperlinks don't show up on certain browsers but all book title are links!]
September 2024: