PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Stop going 90% of the way with women
Added 2024-12-22 02:08:58 +0000 UTC
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I found a boring nice woman. She is an expat from Kenya. Couldn't be happier ☺️
hendrik veendijk
2025-01-11 07:54:13 +0000 UTCAssuming she's properly attracted to you, really solid advice.
Steven
2024-12-29 05:56:09 +0000 UTCI just saw this one the other day. I thought that was a solid message. I wish I could send it to my brother's friend, but what he chooses to subject himself to is not my business, and he's primarily my brother's friend. Maybe if he specifically said he was looking for advice…
William
2024-12-24 08:30:32 +0000 UTCDr orion taraban has had two videos about giving too much in a relationship If you give everything and your only positive quality in the relationship is your provision, at some point you will have given her everything and the only thing left to give her Is a big fat severance package! A.k.a. a divorce
Peter
2024-12-24 04:22:08 +0000 UTCThat its my ideal first date actually… A true grass roots test of team work If the power dynamics and mutual accommodation doesn’t ever work there… How is it meant to work elsewhere? I can imagine scenarios where the “team “ work is based on entire task delegation… But that feels less “together”, atleast to me
Peter
2024-12-24 04:19:48 +0000 UTC😅 i did that more than once😬 im out if college so i the tempting opportunity doesn’t come along much We shall see how it goes next time My attitude is now, Only reciprocal effort from now………
Peter
2024-12-24 04:14:59 +0000 UTCOh boy i hate those rejections on the basis of doing things right Those sting even worse
Peter
2024-12-24 04:11:25 +0000 UTCI think that, as men, we need to learn how to give AND receive. If you close your mind off from receiving and accepting gifts and other forms of positivity that come your way, you can never properly receive that other 50%. Furthermore, you are also depriving others of the opportunity to give and reap the satisfaction that comes from it. So, please be open to receive what others give and accept it with gratitude and appreciation and even reciprocation! Giving comes more naturally to us and is also what is expected of us. But women need to learn how to give too. They are good at receiving, that's for sure.
Ashwin Srinivas
2024-12-23 20:59:38 +0000 UTCI've been on both ends when it comes to acceptance and rejection. Fortunately, none of them tried to lash out trying to "ruin my life". I mean, they didn't like it and tried to lash out, but I didn't do anything fundamentally wrong there, so I just let it slide and the ones that did try to take her side were never on my list of favourite people anyway, so no losses there. They just heard her side of the story with all the emotionally distraught bias that came with it and didn't even consider things from my POV. I don't respect such people. As for protecting yourself against it, I would day, just be courteous and let it be fair game in that you properly communicated your disinterest. If she tries to lash out against you because of that, nobody in their right mind would support her. And if they do, then they have shown you who they are, and you can write them off as friends or close acquaintances. Just hold your ground, if you're not in the wrong things can take care of themselves. And I don't know if there is a "wrong" either. Maybe if you cheated on her, lied and committed some sort of moral fraud, you could be in the wrong.
Ashwin Srinivas
2024-12-23 20:56:25 +0000 UTCWhen I was in college a girl I was really interested in was complaining about how her boyfriend wouldn't help her move into her new apartment. He told her to hire movers, because he had plans and wasn't going to break them. She seemed really upset, and I completely misunderstood what was happening. I saw what I thought was an opening. LOL. I jumped in and spent all Saturday helping her move. Carried her heavy furniture up and down multiple flights of stairs. She eventually married and then divorced that other guy, but guaranteed she doesn't even remember my name. If you've never done anything like this, I applaud you. I wasn't better than that other guy, I was just more willing to simp. If somehow she had left that guy for me, it would have been a disaster. Once I started to see this, my relationships with women started to improve.
John
2024-12-23 04:31:15 +0000 UTCExcellent video. The 90% guy was me for so many years in my marriage. All it did was build resentment and a widening communication gap between myself and my wife. It was also the story of my dating life. Always way too nice, always way too accommodating, rejected many times but always told "you'll make someone very happy one day - just not me". The hardest part of this is realizing that, yes, there are toxic and immature women out there dating terrible men, and incentivizing/rewarding toxic behavior. That is not mutually exclusive to me needing to make changes in how I approach relationships with women. Many of us were sold a lie about what women want and how to make them happy. Not just a lie, an aggressive, pervasive and profitable lie. Alexander has given really good advice here on how to make small changes. Above all - do NOT tell your GF/Wife/SO what you are doing. It will not go well. Make the changes slowly, and when it gets hard just remember you are doing this for you, for your own sanity and well being. I'm several years into this and it is really hard but it is worth it. Good luck and encouragement to everyone.
John
2024-12-22 18:27:58 +0000 UTCYou meet in a grocery store. The relationship takes off. Years later she is still dragging you to the grocery store. You follow her around for an hour of misery every week. After all, that’s where you met! No! Couples were not meant to shop together. This is part of the 50% you have to take back!
Eric Linden
2024-12-22 17:18:45 +0000 UTCFor the record, this also continues through marriage. Do not do more than 50% on a consistent basis,. But I suspect this is true to a degree in all matters. And it was true in Shakespeare's time as well - "Neither a borrower nor a lender be, For loan oft loses both itself and friend, And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry." It dulls the edge because if you have already borrowed and extended yourself then what do you have to give to the wife that she doesn't already have?
John Moose
2024-12-22 12:29:36 +0000 UTCThis video and how you approached the topic is exactly why I joined your Patreon. Explaining the relationship dynamics in a way the uses the foundational skills men use to attract women is a great idea.
Jason
2024-12-22 12:27:18 +0000 UTCMerry Christmas to everyone! Even its not Christmas, have a happy holiday season and may you all enter the new year safely and with hope and energy Forward we inch! Forever onward!
Peter
2024-12-22 10:23:13 +0000 UTCGetting to 50/50 is probably long term the best way. Also appreciate the moderate content
Peter
2024-12-22 08:06:03 +0000 UTCWheat waffles would say unless you are getting s Tier choosing signs… you are not goingvto get to put in 10% let along 60% effort. 95% maybe coz you can be of simp pay pig exploited But i agree. Better she likes you a tiny big more. Or at the least you’re never unwilling to walk away
Peter
2024-12-22 07:35:02 +0000 UTCThis is all fine and good and makes sense and yes it fully human brocken programming of our species But what does it matter if you don’t even get a chance to put in the 10% It feels like if your don’t pander, your are not even getting the foot in. So I kinda feel that 10% is for the chad, that doesn’t know they are chad But bux, not beta bux, but alpha bux. Is shit out of luck 🤪
Peter
2024-12-22 07:29:37 +0000 UTCSaying no. Not giving validation. Rejection. Short term, it causes women to be attracted. Long term it’s a more difficult balance.
Eric Linden
2024-12-22 05:32:35 +0000 UTCVery very good video. I lost you with; "step one" and then no more steps.(?).. but content on point. We value what we work for, spend energy and pay for. Thank you Alex. Have her invest. Also don't forget to thank and praize her for it. Have any of you guys rejected a girl, and then her making your life miserable afterwards? I understand girls not liking it, but having them then try to ruin your life for it, really sucks. Aside from rejecting her respecfully, how do you protect yourself against that?
Christophe Ruef
2024-12-22 02:49:52 +0000 UTCYou can’t have a successful long term relationship only going 10%, but you can’t going 100% either.
Eric Linden
2024-12-22 02:43:17 +0000 UTC
