PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Most Women are basic
Added 2024-11-12 07:00:03 +0000 UTC
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The difference is that those things are forced on men through media and politics. I've NEVER been given anything let alone a job based on my sex or equality drives but I've been done out of a job plenty of times for those very reasons. Why wouldn't a man have a lack of ambition when his hard work, dedication, discipline and tenacity are rewarded with scorn, ridicule and apathy. You get the kind of men you reward and women don't reward any of the above in men.
Well shit.
2024-12-12 14:55:14 +0000 UTCYou can believe that you (and your children) are special without behaving badly. I’m a proud elitist, & a big part of being unique, in a good way, is being a more self-aware, more critical, following higher standards, pursuing grander ambitions etc. And as for raising children without religion & spirituality - I think that’s a huge mistake. Materialism is so limiting & leads to nihilism.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-25 15:30:45 +0000 UTCMost people are basic, but yes, women especially. It’s quite unfortunate. I find the self-deprecating attitude & lack of ambition increasingly common among modern men similarly frustrating.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-25 15:19:34 +0000 UTC@Matthew Smith - 💯% agree!
Joseph Omega
2024-11-19 23:30:10 +0000 UTCTo dovetail off of what Alexander was communicating in this video vis a vis people are rarely inherently unique or special and are much more likely to be similar and non-unique to others, I clearly recall the following advice from an older male mentor while I was going through a rather painful episode at that time: "The more personal it is, the more universal it is". This really stuck with me and I gradually began to see that even the most intimate, personal, hurtful or embarrassing situations have been and currently are being experienced by many people around the world, often other men. Whatever you're experiencing is neither as uniquely terrible nor as uniquely wonderful as you think. And that's totally OK. Thanks for reading, hope that helps someone.
Matthew Smith
2024-11-18 18:36:39 +0000 UTC@castirondude - I think that the contrast could be described as not just between "emotional" versus "physical", but also between the "sensitive" and the "sensible". Though not all (or even the majority) by any means, I have seen men who live by themselves in the most abject and deteriorating squallor: Unwashed dishes, beer cans, trash, dingy dimly-lit lighting, decaying food in the refrigerator, etc. -- if they are rich enough, paying professional housekeepers to periodically binge-clean, all while accumulating saved fortunes. While at the same time I've seen women living by themselves in the most dysfunctionally superficial and pretentious moneypits: Electrical/electronic devices and plumbing that break down or don't work, over-priced and useless furniture, appliances and attire, eating out more than in, with barely more than ice-cream and cheesecake in the refrigerator, etc. -- if they are rich enough, continually paying predatory contractors to fix even the simplest things (including themselves, physically and emotionally), and discarding and "renovating" the perfectly functional yet "unfashionable", all while saving very little. As a dimoprhic species, we are designed for mated units in dynamic equilibrium, that mitigate and stabilize each other's excesses.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-15 05:36:02 +0000 UTCWomen build the (emotional) home, men build the (physical) house. Yes I can confirm that - having lived by myself or with roommates for a decade..
castirondude
2024-11-15 02:51:26 +0000 UTC@Peter - 😂
Joseph Omega
2024-11-14 22:24:52 +0000 UTC@castirondude - Seems to be an aspect of "Blank Page Syndrome" (or the "Marshmallow Effect"): https://chatgpt.com/share/673675e5-6f64-800a-9921-226459ea8ebe Yes, it tends to resolve itself with maturity and experience.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-14 22:22:15 +0000 UTC@castirondude - Because it is perfectly consistent with "Femininity". 👍
Joseph Omega
2024-11-14 21:59:41 +0000 UTC@castirondude - All very true: Women appear to be MUCH better HOME "builders" than HOUSE builders. It's just that, without instructions or experience (and due to social indoctrination), they are unable to tell the difference. Hence: "A woman can do anything a man can do." I imagine the complement is also true, and that men are not all that accomplished at HOME building as HOUSE building -- the only difference is that we kinda KNOW that.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-14 21:42:32 +0000 UTCYou're so fascinating!
castirondude
2024-11-14 17:57:27 +0000 UTCA house is just one example but it goes that way with many things. Once you start actually doing things then the number of practical viable options are relatively small. When I see people saying "Why would we do it this way there are a billion other ways" , it's theoretically true but in practice not really, so that tells you they haven't really done any of it themselves.
castirondude
2024-11-14 17:30:04 +0000 UTCSomeone who is super open minded can be like that and it can be debilitating. You get stuck at zero because moving in any direction is also closing off other options, will be imperfect and have drawbacks. I have known people who could not resolve a dilemma between two options which were both imperfect. And two options are a lot easier than starting with a blank slate. It does seem to be more of a female thing. Females seem more inclined to make a linear hierarchy of better and worse, and if things don't fit like that it breaks their brain. Like I said in my other comment this kind of resolves when you start actually doing things. Set a goal of something that actually works. It is a lot more satisfying to have something actually working than contemplating all the thousands of ways it COULD work , but doesn't.
castirondude
2024-11-14 16:56:31 +0000 UTCThat mindset is actually attractive
castirondude
2024-11-14 16:48:16 +0000 UTCThe parents should help their children to develop their identities, to see past the hormonal halo. It is bizarre that we expect people to spend a quarter of a century in school - while at the same time we expect them to figure out all the most important things all on their own. I feel for the "see through the matrix" girl. Has anyone here built a house? Like from scratch? It's actually kind of hard to start with just NOTHING and start making decisions. This goes here, that goes there. A wall protects you from the elements but also restricts your movement. And you quite quickly find out that a practical, affordable, easy to build house starts to look a lot like other houses out there. Roof, windows, doors, walls, ventilation, foundation, drainage, climate control. You might think in theory there's a billion ways to build a house, but once you start actually doing it, and you find practical building materials and methods then you don't have all that many options. And just when you think you came up with something clever and unique .. you find out someone has already done it and there's a wikipedia page about it.
castirondude
2024-11-14 16:47:05 +0000 UTCI have always considered myself, and have even told people, that I am just a typical man. Nothing special. And I am okay with that, keeps me grounded.
Matt Scoggins
2024-11-14 15:22:32 +0000 UTCI've spent 3 years in India and a lot of girls there describe themselves as simple. Like you described, they are often quiet, contemplative, and easier to have a thought provoking conversation with once they get over the initial shyness. I've seen descriptions of "simple" or "boring" on dating apps in East Asia too.
Kevin Martin
2024-11-14 05:15:01 +0000 UTCHey, my name is 'John'! I must be special!
John Moose
2024-11-14 03:44:53 +0000 UTCNot making character judgments but judging actions is great advice for anyone and great to teach that way of talking and thinking (it’s in the same vein as „non violent communication“) from the very beginning. 😃
Peter
2024-11-14 01:28:28 +0000 UTC„I guarantee that l've been with more women in my 51 years than any of your other Patreons“ Friendly fire
Peter
2024-11-14 01:24:14 +0000 UTCParticularly liked the extra patreon part. I love the way Alex breaks down the frames sitting on top of reality like the spiritual perspective and the concept of the self. Those have their place but are often used to obscure what's real or tangible. It's eye opening to see it as a parent wanting to facilitate their child's growth. You want them to explore and learn in reality, not so much in the abstract concepts of self or religion. It's just confusing until they are old enough to understand these as concepts within their life, not indisputable parts of reality.
Steven
2024-11-13 07:12:54 +0000 UTCCan relate to "aware" girl haha. I get stuck on things like "why doesn't reality conform to my human ideas of order and morality? It's so arbitrary, wtf am I supposed to do!" I think a healthy self esteem and community helps keep a person grounded. It's isolated insecurity that leads to a felt need to be special or perfect. Problem is that hypergamy floats and that men aren't created equal. Easy to feel like you need to be more than who you are especially if you feel inadequate at base.
Steven
2024-11-13 07:11:17 +0000 UTCPart of this has been in the culture for thousands of years. But the entitlement of the latest generation of women has taken it to new levels. They say “the bigger they are, the harder they fall.” That can altered a bit and applied here. The bigger the delusion when they are young, the worse the depression and mental illness in women when they fall from their pedestal as attractiveness fades and reality sets in.
Eric Linden
2024-11-12 22:46:10 +0000 UTC@Peter - I think each generation is becoming more and more "snowflakey". I'm pretty sure the "Greatest Generation" called the "Boomers", snowflakes.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-12 21:44:53 +0000 UTC@Cezary Skoczek - And narcissism, yes. 👍
Joseph Omega
2024-11-12 21:41:38 +0000 UTCI am a non-believer myself. I just grew up to understand and appreciate religion on a deeper level. I also don't confine myself just to Abrahamic religions. I can understand him tho. I met a lot of Catholics in my country who were of the most repulsive kind. They were the most hateful and petty people I know. And yet they thought about themselves just and pious. That ain't religiousness tho. Just bigotry.
Cezary Skoczek
2024-11-12 21:18:53 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - That is correct: In Catholisism, we're are all born with "Original Sin", so therefore inherently flawed. I suspect ALL major religions teach some sort of "Iniital Humility", with the ultimate goal of life as "growing towards perfection": https://chatgpt.com/share/6733ac77-5e2c-800a-9cae-84b96120cf39
Joseph Omega
2024-11-12 19:32:14 +0000 UTC@Bill Washinski - Seems you MAY be saying that BEFORE you were special (now), you DID say “I’m just an average guy or typical man”, and that this is the meaning of "Guys take years", am I right? I suspect Alexander may be saying that, it is actually the HUMILITY to admit “I’m just an average guy or typical man” that allows access to the REALITY needed to build into your current success -- that it is PRECISELY those potential years of humility that "women waste".
Joseph Omega
2024-11-12 19:19:50 +0000 UTCGotta love the liver spots on the chest accentuated by too much makeup on the face/fake lashes. Gotta REALLY love that! I guess nobody understands the idea of composition any more. Part of what Alex is talking about. As an older man, I have dated beautiful women who didn't party in their 20's. They glow with femininity. They are rare.
Kent Johnson
2024-11-12 17:11:51 +0000 UTC@CS - Alexander, like many non-believers, believes that religion teaches we are born perfect, which couldn’t be further from the truth. We are all born flawed, broken, and inherently evil. It’s all throughout the Bible, and is the belief of all three major monotheistic religions.
Eric Linden
2024-11-12 16:38:20 +0000 UTCIm not special, but I am „different „ and that is often. Not so great. I would like to be special like I. That movie „powder“ but alas … 🫠
Peter
2024-11-12 16:03:11 +0000 UTCI am a millennial and I’m never going to call gen z special snowflakes . Just a few „short“ years ago millennials got the EXACT same comments. And avocado toast comments
Peter
2024-11-12 15:53:12 +0000 UTCAlexander, what the hell you talking about—no guy says “I’m just an average guy or typical man”… ever. Most men will point to something they do better at, be it software development, lifting weights, Bitcoin… but at least something while acknowledging they’re not as good at other things. Hot women are desired & always have had that privilege of zero need for self awareness; to get fvcked. And most of the time that’s it. It’s been going on since you were just a sparkle in your daddy’s eye. The problem is that lack of need self awareness catches up with them. I guarantee that I’ve been with more women in my 51 years than any of your other Patreons, and I’ve seen it from the side of them having privilege to losing it (and they lose it hard & with strong denial). The lifestyle paid for them in 20s/30s is gone. They think because it was easy then to just get, in 40s it is easy to earn themselves. I know one who was a knockout gorgeous—proposed to on Eiffel Tower, after divorce became a stripper till a Sugar Daddy funded her until—she turned 40. He began to cut her off, and she went from living in luxury apartments to on couches of who would take her in. I dated this girl & she offered me nothing. She refused to cook, said touching meat made her “ill”, and refused to part with her cats or her stuff, essentially trying to make demands that any living situation required her authority. She didn’t even have a job. I was never taking her in, and she became increasingly resentful & angry. Told me that I “had nothing” — and compared to her ex husband & sugar daddy I didn’t have the same. But they came from high wealth. It didn’t matter that I’m a $100k + earner or that I chose a smaller place but I was saving and investing significant money. It’s not spent on her so it’s useless in her mind. But she thought she’d out-earn me working 10 days a month in real estate, literally told me she’d retire in 5 years. It was all I could do not to laugh in her face at that point. It took extreme effort for me to save $200k at that point & she thought it would be easy. Last I talked to her, she was driving door dash with a salvaged title car. That was two promotions ago. That’s one story. I’ve seen more. They wreck their lives with their ignorance & sense of importance while coming with an expiration date. The men you talk about being uninteresting are so because no one is taking them to Vegas, on cruise, front of VIP line, etc. I started having interesting stories only when I began making something of myself: signed autographs at a Super Bowl party pretending to be the backup at Tight End, rang opening bell at NYSE, delivered presentations at major conferences, etc. Guys take years, women waste them.
Bill Washinski
2024-11-12 13:29:37 +0000 UTCThanks for the insights on parenting. Love this kind of content, for my son is 2y, and accountability in that field is important.
Christophe Ruef
2024-11-12 12:46:52 +0000 UTCWell. First of this word doesn't mean just that xD Second I am aware of some research that contradicts it. Was it Project Gateway or something along this line? It doesn't matter, honestly, as pursuing spirituality is to develop your mind.
Cezary Skoczek
2024-11-12 11:30:06 +0000 UTC15:15 It boils down to teaching EQUAL INTRINSIC VALUE. What my peers call The Law of ONE aka all came from the same Consciousness Source but to fulfill our own life paths. If you don't recognize others as aspect of the divine that open the door for superiority complex and abusive behavior to happen. The bullying and normalization of it reveals the level of disconnection we have collectively. The uniqueness of individuals has to do with our skill sets and our freewill CHOICES in past/present/future, as well has our level of perceptions and insights on the secrets of life. (embodiment of virtues, exploration of concepts, testimonies on experiences, mastery on ourselves, contribution to the collective experience). Most of us live basic/boring lives because it is "safer" to follow the society programming at the cost of turning into NPCs. It reminds me in my college years the vast majority of peoples hated philosophy classes, repelled by the concept of studying the field of ideas to expand their perspective on their thoughts. (and this was before the woke stuff precisely in the 2000's). When it comes to uniqueness I want also to interject a bit because a lot of denial is going right now on various human experiences.. in the case of children there is some examples: Some come with memory of past life still active while other don't. Some have ISP very turned on and others don't. Some have their potential completely blocked due to some disease while other don't.
ATH-YF
2024-11-12 11:26:17 +0000 UTC"Spiritual" = pretend. There's no evidence of any "spirit" separate from the mind.
beret-doppelganger
2024-11-12 11:22:31 +0000 UTC2:10 I realized this as I got older, its like when your child self realize that you parents are not all knowing and sometimes have no clue of how the world works. Having character substance come with knowing yourself and knowing the world, being pretty in today's world is like having an empty shell. Girls who don't put points in their inner development are going to find themselves connecting to shallow peoples that would never speak to their souls. There is no fulfillment having peoples only complimenting you for your physique.
ATH-YF
2024-11-12 10:34:27 +0000 UTCFirst woman thinks a city of 27,000 people is the center of the universe. Adelaide is beautiful, but it's obvious she thinks she's a "big fish" and doesn't understand how small her "pond" is.
Lioninwinter
2024-11-12 10:29:58 +0000 UTCAm I the only one who thinks this first woman looks astonishingly like Janice from The Muppet Show? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8dvgYl0BG00
Joseph Omega
2024-11-12 09:36:08 +0000 UTCVery nicely done, Alexander. I really like how this particular video emphasizes how much we really all have in common....just regular people making the most of life. There comes a point where you can really relax about life realizing good enough....really is good enough. The competition is with yourself...are you better or worse than before....and adjust accordingly....or not. I do love the focus on how the social climate of todays extols the female and belittles the male. He's supposed to protect, provide and ...well procreate, but women seem to want to stand in the way of that. I had just been pondering why there is so much simping going on in the world today and your distinction of the snowflake approach sheds so much light on this. An aside on hobbies and passions...kind of zen...when you are involved in something you really enjoy....when you are caught up in it...there's no you going on. You're not thinking about how people view you or what is going to happen, you're too busy in the moment enjoying the activity. Soooo....therein might lie some insight into women who have no hobbies, they're too busy thinking about themselves.
Daniel L Chin
2024-11-12 09:19:13 +0000 UTCThere is a big difference between being inherently special, and special to each other.
Robert Lindhé
2024-11-12 08:59:28 +0000 UTCmost of what you told was great but what i didnt agree with is that spiritually the question 'who am i' is pretty deep question and if one genuinely seeks that he/she may understand that it is the same longing for every person and thus it will make him go more and more deeper where he/she will realise that everyone is the same deep down and thus the tendency to feel special will wither away automatically, therefore spirituality and deep questioning should be promoted and encouraged because otherwise on surface level people will never raelise the inclusiveness that they should feel for one another because everhone is same at deep down level...
Love Electrical
2024-11-12 08:50:06 +0000 UTCSadly I don't have time right now to elaborate. But I am massively surprised how shallow and superficial your understanding of religion is ^^". If aomebody uses teachings to convinve themself they are good christians or that they sins are forgiven and this is all... Then they are not even remotly spiritual. Just fakers.
Cezary Skoczek
2024-11-12 07:47:27 +0000 UTCOn the part about parenting, it reminds me of the Bluey episode on Library. Being made to think the child is special makes it seriously annoying to everyone.
Jerry
2024-11-12 07:23:19 +0000 UTC
