PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Men cannot read women's minds
Added 2024-11-08 07:00:06 +0000 UTC
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@JO I’m bad at gauging that type of thing because my theory of mind is so poor. I would guess it is likely less, but by how much…ehh, probably not much. There’s not a big behavioural difference that I’ve observed, at least. Not a huge sample size either because I have vastly more male friends & my female friends are generally very eccentric.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-26 20:08:35 +0000 UTC@RhodiumMaiden - In your opinion, how would you guage the degree of your (or your friends) own directness, ability to be read, or lack of desire to mind read, compared with the average male? Would you rate it as, say, significantly less?
Joseph Omega
2024-11-26 10:48:50 +0000 UTC@JO I’m only close to neurodivergent women who are usually quite direct or very easy to read, so, nearly always I’m dealing with people who do not require or desire any type of mind reading.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-25 14:56:28 +0000 UTC@Ashwin Srinivas - Unfortunate, but true.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-22 11:15:01 +0000 UTC@Joseph Why would it be hard to stop simping? It's not going to work in attracting women. It will only waste their time and money and they need basic common sense to realize this. But I understand that it is hard for the average Joe to pursue delayed gratification and mental health, and self-improvement should be the areas of focus for young men especially.
Ashwin Srinivas
2024-11-20 01:11:10 +0000 UTC@Arthur Eagle - The INDIVIDUAL links CAN be shared -- to test, open it in Incognito Mode in your browser. Does it not work for you?
Joseph Omega
2024-11-20 00:18:14 +0000 UTC@Hyperion - I don't know. I suspect that women WOULD care, if they were directly affected by the deleterious consequences to themselves of ignoring mens' struggles -- I easily imagine a case where a severely depressed or distracted or disenchanted man FAILED to adequately protect a woman and her children from harm. Modern women are too often SPARED or EXCUSED the consequences of their poor choices concerning men. "Frontier wives" knew this QUITE well, and hence would take GREAT care to protect and preserve their husbands' positve spirits.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-20 00:13:28 +0000 UTC@ATH-YF - Strictly yes, it IS a Human issue, but this does not invalidate the contention that "immature behavior and relationship discomfort" is SIGNIFICANTLY more common among women than among men. I suspect even most women would agree.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-20 00:01:43 +0000 UTC@Peter - "Tough love", which you MUST have heard many women here described as "kindness" (as opposed to "niceness"), is not incompatible with DEEP levels of compassion. The key is not to be CRIPPLED by the latter to the exclusion and detriment of the responsibilities inherent in the former. The only effective tool many mothers feel they have is "wait until your father gets home". Dads should never drop the ball that mothers hand over to them, even (and maybe ESPECIALLY) when the latter are the TARGETS of such sternness.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-19 23:50:07 +0000 UTC@Ashwin Srinivas - For the VAST majority of men, this is FAR easier said than done, given the current misandric climate coupled with male sexual desires and the degree of desperation currently felt.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-19 23:37:23 +0000 UTCUm, then we're back to square one and you just discredited your initial response... Not much point sharing something they can't view.
Arthur Eagle
2024-11-19 09:25:10 +0000 UTCYup, men as a whole just need to stop simping, that's how we can hope to fix this problem.
Ashwin Srinivas
2024-11-14 15:05:44 +0000 UTC@Joseph Omega. Maybe. Perhaps someone else will sound off. It could well be that I’m too „soft“ I do have a lot , perhaps unhealthy amounts of compassion for those in pain.
Peter
2024-11-12 15:28:52 +0000 UTCIt can go both ways because it is an issue of immature behavior and relationship discomfort rather than men/female hardwired issues. I personally suffer from this closeness with family members and more recently the friend groups, I wont expect them to understand my issues since its mixed with trauma they don't believe exist and other times they used those infos against me. Thankfully I got rid of the fear of isolation caused by the misunderstandings, oversimplification and flawed labeling or even my own projected expectations because at this stage of my life journey the inner God-Source awareness is permanently re-discovered. The funny thing is because of my level of energy sensitivity I became able to do some 'read on the subconscious' . This allowed me to open up to the correct peoples or detect ones with toxic agendas. This also give insights on the nature of the struggle someone is having and be able to provide more accurate help if needed. (works on pets too btw) Such things can only develop by living more sincerely and increasing human knowledge.. going from strict intellect to direct cognition.
ATH-YF
2024-11-12 02:39:15 +0000 UTCHere is a link to the original YouTube Short of the entire video clip from timestamp 6:47: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/TREdIX2AmZM ChatGPT had this to say about the evidence: https://chatgpt.com/share/6732b29b-d4a8-800a-9b8a-5ac6d5f8f32a
Joseph Omega
2024-11-12 01:13:06 +0000 UTC@RhodiumMaiden - How is it among your female peers?
Joseph Omega
2024-11-11 22:06:34 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - Again, this is a JUVENILE trait, so not that surprising that it would far more exist among the (evolutionarilly neotenous) adult female population than among adult males. Another way of seeing this may be that it is their percieved ENTITLEMENT that their minds be read without their having to speak (or often even THINK). Or it COULD be a test, show or flexing of their "soft power" muscles.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-11 22:00:42 +0000 UTC@Ashwin Srinivas - Yes, I also have observed this phenomenon. The popular female perception that they are "the prize" (coupled with their socially sanctioned feeling of "moral superiority" over men) almost GUARANTEES that they would find it EXCEEDINGLY difficult to "admit to being wrong" about ANYTHING, even if such admission gets them what they strongly desire.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-11 21:50:57 +0000 UTC@Peter - But babies ARE human, albeit UNdeveloped. Past a certain age however, this persistent desire MAY become more and more "UNDERdeveloped", certainly from a MALE point of view. That women are evolutionarilly NEOTENOUS in physiology AND psychology is almost indisputable, still, all I was commenting on was your phrasing ("to be valued, to have someone show they care ... being seen ... feeling safe, cherished and wanted") -- I'm SURE I'm not alone in thinking how it comes across, and who/what it immediately reminds one of. 💁♂️
Joseph Omega
2024-11-11 21:41:32 +0000 UTCSpeaking of lack of communication. I've seen this manifest in a slightly different way. I've seen instances of women messing it up with men by pulling away, leaving them on read, ghosting them etc because of something that upset them and after a while, when the man did not chase her back, she couldn't bring herself to go and communicate directly. So, they would try to send their friends, especially guy friends who are mutual to the dirty work for them and to get the guy to reach out to her. I am curious to know what everyone's thoughts are on this behaviour and if you have observed or experienced this yourself. I think this is like trying to hire someone to go to the gym for you. You need to do this yourself for things to actually get better.
Ashwin Srinivas
2024-11-10 19:24:51 +0000 UTC@Peter It’s not exactly analogous but it’s pretty comparable. I almost never NEED to know something. Unless it relates directly to my own happiness ofc, and then a solution would be preferred anyway. But when there is no improvement OR explanation I get frustrated.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-10 17:47:36 +0000 UTCThe implication I find is a bit anti Human. Saying wanting those things makes you a baby. Im not condoning the method. But I am questioning the presentation as something sinister. Purposeful. Tactical. Intentional. Some are maybe, but it was presented as a generality.
Peter
2024-11-10 10:17:53 +0000 UTCMakes sense, but in recognizing her immutable traits and this value discrepancy hypergamy gets shattered making longterm relationship impossible for both parties. This is untenable and will only lead to heartache and possibly collateral damage especially if children are involved. The solution is to grow up and value one's self enough to be able to regulate your own emotions at least enough to reach contentment without intervention from another human being if not joy.
Ryan Carlow
2024-11-10 09:39:34 +0000 UTC@Peter - Just like babies do?
Joseph Omega
2024-11-09 23:25:30 +0000 UTCSomehow I wonder is it just a niaeve way of expressing the very human and ubiquitous desire to be valued, to have someone show they care. And in being seen. Feel safe. Cherished and wanted?
Peter
2024-11-09 10:14:10 +0000 UTCAre the two situations comparable? For example, when the women in Alex’s video want their partner to mind read and in this other case, did your partner want you to mind read or did you feel you HAD to in order to know him better(because men often don’t share) even though it wasn’t perhaps an express or implied request from him.
Peter
2024-11-09 10:04:09 +0000 UTCWell I guess Alex would have done/said something if it was a problem 🙋♂️
Peter
2024-11-09 09:57:10 +0000 UTCExpecting men to read their minds is a female trait generally, but it is not all women. I’ve actually known a few men who exhibited this trait. It is also common for teenage boys to expect their parents to read their minds. Also some women don’t only expect their man to read their minds; they also expect it of female friends and some coworkers.
Eric Linden
2024-11-09 05:58:49 +0000 UTCHe makes it sound like such a wonderful challenge to be a woman going after a king. To optimize attraction, play elaborate games and tell stories that compel and engage him. Sometimes it seems vastly preferable to the challenge of a man trying to conquer the sheer complexity of the world but no doubt comes with its own complexities.
Steven
2024-11-09 03:35:53 +0000 UTCSuch a deeply rooted feminine desire. To be intuitively understood. It solves for both hypergamy (man is extraordinarily competent in feminine nature) and solipsism (the woman is deserving of the upmost attention). There's also the pride that comes from being able to entice behavior by inherent worth alone. The less effort expended the more contented that part of our psychology feels. This is far more important to the feminine than value derived from hard work, developed skills or precise communication. After all if your value comes from those things then you are always replaceable (see: men) but if your value is entirely based in immutable characteristics then you are safe, secure and love/attention is truly assured.
Steven
2024-11-09 02:51:26 +0000 UTC@RhodiumMaiden - Interesting. You DO appear atypical in MANY ways. Or maybe it IS due to your choices and preferences. I don't yet know for sure.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-08 23:27:27 +0000 UTCOrion Taraban at Psychacks just posted a very relevant video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uznT1EF26ms Love to see more collab between AG and OT.
Hyperion
2024-11-08 21:04:32 +0000 UTCI should think it is not a man's nature to expect his partner to know how he is feeling. If a woman wants to know, she should simply ask her man. If a man says he doesn't want to talk about it, or he doesn't know how he feels, it is exactly that. If he says he's not thinking about anything ... it's exactly that. Despite women's refusal to believe, we men have the superpower to simply blank out and shut down sometimes. Above all, women shouldn't make a mountain out of a molehill over it.
Hyperion
2024-11-08 21:03:32 +0000 UTCIdk if I’m a super communicator, or I choose men who are not in touch with their emotions/lack introspection, or both, but my experience is the opposite of this. I.e. I’m the one who has to try to mind read.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-08 20:50:51 +0000 UTC@AG gave one of the best explanation and insight into this side of the female nature IMO. The baby obstacle experiment was quite enlightening. It does help to understand this behavioral instinct as female nature. I'd even venture to say, it's also not in women's nature to care about men's struggles, never have and never will. I should think that it is more of a learned behavior, depending on whether she has a positive functional relationship role model such as that of her parents or close relatives.
Hyperion
2024-11-08 20:38:14 +0000 UTCWhen I was younger, and dating, I ran into many women like this. What I should have done was move on, immediately and respectfully . My wife doesn't do this, and this isn't behavior that anyone should have to tolerate if they are in a relationship. Thoughtfulness is a virtue, and absolutely, everyone should strive to be more aware and thoughtful regarding their partners - but especially if your partner explicitly expects you to pick up on and interpret hints - run away from that. That's immature and selfish. Good video.
John
2024-11-08 19:46:11 +0000 UTC@Peter - Actually, no. I'd thought about that, but his Patreon YouTube channel has no archival content, so the only way to get to any of these "Patreon Exclusive" videos is if you have the SPECIFIC URL pointing to EACH one, which can ONLY be obtained with access to paid membership. Otherwise sharing an individual link will effectively just serve as a TEASER sample to encourage more paid membership, I think. I've wondered previously about this, when I noticed that instructors at paid institutions post sharable links to YouTube content in their classes -- unless you have direct access to their classes, you can NEVER work out or even GUESS what these URL's are or were.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-08 19:21:03 +0000 UTCMaybe the need some people have to feel like things happen without a need to communicate to make them happen has to do with a deep fear of a lack of power or control... If someone has to advocate for their needs, they essentially "admit" that they are not an omnipotent, powerful being and they are dependent in some aspects of their life. If things just "happen" because people attempted to read their mind, they never have to face their own limitations, they can keep believing that they are perfectly equipped to deal with anything the world will throw at them since it will be solved by others around them (and since others are motivated to do so, it must be that they are great and deserving of it). Kind of like a god- people only try so hard to understand and do exactly what god wants because god is conceptually an omnipotent being and doesn't directly communicate with anyone. If he did- he would lose a major portion of the aura and power surrounding him by openly affecting or requesting certain outcomes. For women the fear of not being in control of the situation and needing others for your survival is even more pronounced and can feel overwhelming
Eshkar freedman
2024-11-08 19:08:02 +0000 UTCDude… you just circumvented Alex paywall. I don’t know if he will appreciate that
Peter
2024-11-08 18:32:52 +0000 UTC@Arthur Eagle - You still can -- the YouTube link on the Patreon points to a unique and exclusive video on YouTube separate from the one posted on his regular YouTube channel yet IS sharable. In this case: https://youtu.be/GMOQpJcdyyQ?si=qCAfhinEm5qGU7Tq
Joseph Omega
2024-11-08 16:33:19 +0000 UTCI am so grateful for this video and also "women want men to attack themselves". You are hitting it out of the park Alexander. These videos alone are worth an entire year of Patreon. Thank you.
A. Modest Proposal
2024-11-08 13:08:35 +0000 UTCI wish this wasn't a patreon exclusive... Then I could share it on Quora.
Arthur Eagle
2024-11-08 12:12:52 +0000 UTC
