PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Women don't want to attack you, they want you to attack yourself
Added 2024-11-01 15:00:08 +0000 UTC
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You're bang on the money regarding shame and guilt. I suffer from chronic shame. I know why and where it originated and have had therapy. It's a bugger to shift but until a couple of years ago I wasn't even aware it was chronic shame, I just thought it was normal and who I was. Awareness is the first step to healing.
David Anon
2024-11-17 07:45:23 +0000 UTCIt's hard to watch some of these opening clips. The contempt on one side is sickening...but the passive acceptance on the other side is frustrating. Men who put up with controlling behavior like that are do all men a disservice. I hope those guys got out of those toxic relationships.
Marc Cebrian
2024-11-16 17:33:16 +0000 UTCYeah, she would think more people would get that difference. It's disloyal to shame your partner in public.
warren beane
2024-11-16 17:19:20 +0000 UTCIt doesn't matter. Friends come over. You can't anticipate everything 10 or 20 years in the future, which is probably the life of that fence. It needs to be safe. No one needs their toddlers head stuck through the bottom, wires, or their dog or cat.
warren beane
2024-11-16 17:17:35 +0000 UTCThat was my first thought. It's obvious it's for safety reasons.
warren beane
2024-11-16 17:15:29 +0000 UTC@RhodiumMaiden - I gathered she never thought to pay that much attention initially -- just as with "back seat driving", many women find it preferable to focus or comment on male behavior AFTER the fact rather than BEFORE (or doing the job themselves in the first place).
Joseph Omega
2024-11-04 00:07:32 +0000 UTC@RhodiumMaiden - Ah. Thanks for the thoughtful female perspective! Yes, I can INDEED see how you would think so. However, would not more closer spaces nearer to eye-level introduce an unnecessary clusterphobia effect, as if "fenced-in"? The intent I get from such a design for a railing in a deck or patio is to MINIMIZE its visual presence (optimally invisible), while still providing a physical boundary to prevent falls.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-03 20:28:39 +0000 UTC@Hyperion - Very little "respect" perhaps, but often very much DEPENDENCE. Despite their petulant denials, most women are VERY MUCH intoxicated with the "male gaze", just as most men are VERY MUCH intoxicated with "female build and behaviors". We were each DESIGNED to "succumb" SIMULTANEOUSLY to the other's "wiles". I think only the current IMBALANCE is defective.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-03 20:12:23 +0000 UTC@Peter - Which "message" are you refering to? Mine, yours or Eric's?
Joseph Omega
2024-11-03 19:57:03 +0000 UTC@Peter - Everyone DID have the burden of proof -- once accused, women had the burden of proof that they were NOT a "slut", just as men had (and HAVE) the burden of proof that they were not a "wuss". #MeToo and "believe all women" just changed that for only ONE side by removing "slut shaming" and the "burden of proof" in cases of "he-said, she said". Previously the burdens were SHARED, but in different arenas. Although it is very CHIVILROUS to remove women's burdens so that their "dainty little hearts and minds" can be spared, this was SUPPOSED to be just "male performance art" to show our fealty (like in a Troubadour sonnet). Likewise, GRACIOUSNESS was intended to be just "female performance art" to show their sweetness (like in a Courtesan's voice and manner). We had an evolutionarilly DIMORPHIC pact, which Feminism broke -- a heavenly DANCE, now distrupted.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-03 19:55:59 +0000 UTCThat occurred to me too, but then can’t all the fence be more closely spaced? I hate asymmetry, so I get her perspective. Maybe they don’t have pets or kids?
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-03 19:54:05 +0000 UTCWhy didn’t she notice this from the first fence put up before he’d done so much work & spent so much money? That’s what I immediately thought. That asymmetry would bother me too tbh, but if she cares that much she should be paying attention from the start.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-03 19:51:46 +0000 UTC@jo i think that message was less frivolous that most 🫣
Peter
2024-11-03 10:32:34 +0000 UTC@ jo I imagine you agree, men have a burden of proof. Proof of competence, from if capabilities, proof if generosity, emotional intelligence , culminating in social proof Almost no one is born like that, either by unintended modeling or successful teaching people become And good luck with that if you are internally resistent to that, better yourself process. Aka entitled spoiled people in almost every generation. Especially in coddled gen z
Peter
2024-11-03 10:30:47 +0000 UTC@Peter - ESPECIALLY in the age of the sheer PERSISTENCE of Internet information, I think @Eric Linden may be correct. Also, with the advent of the trend AGAINST public shaming for WOMEN (especially "slut shaming"), it is THEY who have the FAR better chance at recovery, NOT men (who are STILL held directly accountable for the actions and beliefs, not just of themselves, but often ironically, of their women and other dependents).
Joseph Omega
2024-11-02 18:53:46 +0000 UTC@Sgt Pepper & @Eric Linden - Most men with ANY construction experience (or maybe just common sense and a sensitivity to safety and security for his family) would pick up on this immediately -- I'm a little surprised that Alexander did not EXPLICITLY point this out. I DO wonder what her reaction would have been when she eventually brought this "complaint" to her husband's attention -- I STRONGLY suspect it was to double down, rather than gracefully accept her error and ignorance, as well as APPRECIATION of his caring for her safety and that of her children and pets. As I said elsewhere (with recognition of the DEEP irony), Chesterton's Fence was CLEARLY not built by a woman! 😅 (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G._K._Chesterton#Chesterton's_fence)
Joseph Omega
2024-11-02 18:38:09 +0000 UTC@Ryan Carlow & @Hyperion - Perhaps I don't follow politics as closely as I should, but I believe I now understand the nature of the current controversy and rhetoric: https://chatgpt.com/share/67266ba9-ee8c-800a-b6e0-27e4b0865891
Joseph Omega
2024-11-02 18:18:36 +0000 UTC@GomerKyle - Chesterton's Fence was CLEARLY not built by a woman! 😅 (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G._K._Chesterton#Chesterton's_fence) PS. I LOVE that little twist of the popular phrase "Happy Wife, Happy Life"!
Joseph Omega
2024-11-02 17:55:00 +0000 UTC🥲 thats less than stellar human behaviour. Teaching people to be kinder , more considerate humans is virtually impossible if the person is not i a humble enough space And these days between alpha bros, boss bitches, new age brats (like kamala apparently), humble…. People are not
Peter
2024-11-02 17:36:38 +0000 UTCI think you can… but the amount of fixing for public shaming is different.and probably harder to engage and admit, since it was done infront of the world(but thats the forum they chose) The recalibration of that base disrespect is probably similar, Both requires genuine insight and understanding and self reflection. Both are at the core a sign of lack of caring, maybe simply dumb calous disregard for others Both can be learned, if they want to, if they understand. But most people don’t. They think they are just fine in everyway they are
Peter
2024-11-02 17:32:48 +0000 UTCPublic is on TikTok or other social media. Public is also with her friends or family. Private is just the two of you. Private you can walk back later when you chill out. As soon as other people are involved, there is no going back.
Eric Linden
2024-11-02 17:01:49 +0000 UTCThe woman in first clip is foolish and ignorant. The bottom spaces of the metal sections are smaller ON PURPOSE for safety reasons. Wise parents (and the manufacturers) don’t want toddlers and small pets falling through. She is not wise. She is foolish, arrogant and condescending (jealous) of her husband. Harpy Wife = Crappy Life
GomerKyle
2024-11-02 16:56:42 +0000 UTCThere are differences between discussing, arguing, and insulting. Insults can be divided between insulting your competence and personal attacks. Insults are hard to come back from.
Eric Linden
2024-11-02 15:11:45 +0000 UTCI heard people were voting wearing trash bags. It is a shame I voted too early to take part.
Ryan Carlow
2024-11-02 12:27:29 +0000 UTC@Hyperion - I'm not entirely convinced that voting for the "Ultimate Chad" will necessarilly help resolve our culture's underlying problems, though admittedly it MAY momentarilly destabalize (if not hopefully help discredit) many of the more outragious Feminist trends and excesses. We appear to be at a very complex and unpredictable nexus in human civilization, possibly leading to an inflection point into the unknown.
Joseph Omega
2024-11-02 08:33:50 +0000 UTCTaking accountability is the opposite of needing to be right.
Eric Linden
2024-11-02 04:57:53 +0000 UTCYou can come back from private partner shaming. Public partner shaming is irreversible.
Eric Linden
2024-11-02 04:27:39 +0000 UTCI agree. The smaller gaps at the bottom are actually better. I’m guessing he got exactly the one she asked for. I’ll give her points for doing a new twist on the partner shaming video genre. They usually only have to do with men doing traditionally feminine tasks.
Eric Linden
2024-11-02 04:08:20 +0000 UTCI feel sorry for people who can't enjoy dino nuggets. They must be missing out on so many things.
Steven
2024-11-02 02:51:04 +0000 UTCThank you for all you do, Alex.
John Moose
2024-11-02 01:30:03 +0000 UTCFunny Brett Cooper was just talking about this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ITYPetTdCyc It shows how little a certain political party thinks of men in America, that they can make it their business to shame and denigrate men for years, and yet still think they can employ the same tactic to goad men into voting for them. To the party that thinks men are hairy knuckle dragging troglodytes, I say "Me go vote for orange man. Ugah!"
Hyperion
2024-11-01 20:32:04 +0000 UTCVery timely video, as we in America have an election in a few days involving a number of feminine emasculated men on one side of the aisle who have been convinced by women to hate themselves.
Eric Linden
2024-11-01 18:52:50 +0000 UTCClever and attractive women have no need for physical power as long as they have power over men. Women weaponize their feminine wiles as a means to manipulate men into serving their will. This is a survival instinct honed since the dawn of hominids. The moment a man succumbs to a woman's manipulation, he thereby becomes a pawn. What respect does a woman have for pawns?
Hyperion
2024-11-01 17:58:41 +0000 UTCI think the "need to be right" is perhaps the key aspect of SIGN, and it's important for males to really turn on their thinking caps to determine whether they're actually right or wrong (or a healthier way to look at it is "what could be communicated/done better?"). Acknowledge what they said and then quietly ignore or rectify it (going head on is usually a disaster IMHO).
Chris
2024-11-01 17:56:20 +0000 UTCThe reason the gaps were smaller at the bottom of the fencing was to prevent smaller things to fall or get through there. The guy was thinking with purpose when he did that. He also did a great job. This isn't a hack job at all. She has no idea how much she should appreciate that. A contractor would have charged them thousands to do a similar job.
Sgt Pepper
2024-11-01 17:19:39 +0000 UTCI think the title SHOULD strictly read "Women don't ONLY want to attack you, they want you to ALSO attack yourself".
Joseph Omega
2024-11-01 16:16:48 +0000 UTCI think this was the video I needed
Stephon Robinson
2024-11-01 15:22:20 +0000 UTC
