In My Own Skin
Added 2023-05-29 14:06:53 +0000 UTCI grew up under very heavy purity culture rules. From a young age I was taught that my body was shameful and sinful. The first time I remember being told to change because my clothes were too “sexy” I was 10 years old.
Girls were made to believe we could cause men to “sin” and we would then be responsible for that sin. With the threat of hell always looming over us, we mostly tried to follow the rules and be good.
The indoctrination created a lot of fear which of course brought about so much shame and embarrassment about my body. Once I began to have sexual experiences I felt out of control and terrified of hell, but also of embarrassing my family. So I shut down. I covered up. I turned myself into an ice queen and buried my feelings, intentionally losing connection to my own body.
Deconstructing purity culture lies has meant being able to reconnect with myself… my own body, my mind, my feelings, my desires. Learning to love myself and let others love me has been a huge challenge, but it started with some pictures and becoming comfortable being in my own skin and nothing else.
Comments
It’s all set up so men can have an excuse for not controlling themselves and blaming women. Such bullshit. Embrace all of you
Michael
2023-05-31 01:00:46 +0000 UTC
