TheSystematicSlut

Why do I call you "Daddy"?

TLDR: I used to think it was super weird, then someone explained it to me, and then I liked it. 

You've heard me talk about "daddy" or my friend named B. What you may or may not have known is he is the first person I ever explored DDLG and ABDL with, ever. What you also may be quite surprised to find out is that before entering this world and playing with him, I was super hesitant (r...

Age Play + Regression: What's the Difference?

In my last post I talked about keeping aspects of little space to myself, because I need them and they are an integral part of my self-care and actually what I am currently working on with my therapist. I didn't really get to be a kid, for a lot of different reasons, and so allowing my grown-up self to let go, and letting my inner child come through to be seen, and explore and play has been a n...

When Self-Care Becomes Performative

I love being seen, being watched, feeling another's gaze upon my skin when I am feeling my most vulnerable but also totally secure in my body . . . When I feel the exact way I know they see me being. That moment of pure turn-on at the point of connection . . . be it physical, energetic, or from afar ov...

The Problems with a Niche K!nk

So, I honestly did not know what to title this one but it's a thing I've been thinking about for a while, and the more I think about it the more I push away from producing content. And thus, it's time to talk about it.

To start, y'all may know there is a difference between a k!nk and a f3tish. In short: Some k!nks may be a f3tish, but not all and not for every person. 

I did a ...

Pandemic Musings of an Immunocompromised Kitten

The last 24 hours were rough.

Details aren't super important because the specifics really aren't the thing I'm processing but this particular situation brought to the surface all the things I have been suppressing for the last two years (since the pandemic started).

Contrary to what some might think - and a lot of people in my opinion hide behind - it's not f...

K!nky Q&A: A Guide to Solo Wax Play

Some of you may recall I have shared on my Instagram about "Daddy". This person has been a super important part of my journey into k!nk and liberation of self and access to pleasure. We are not together - nor have we ever been in a committed, romantic relationship sense of the term. We are both poly, not looking for a relat...

K!nky Story Time with Dixie

I remember the day I first experienced the rush of build up before the release that comes just a second after you think you can't take it anymore. I was sitting in the chair facing the mirror, holding direct eye contact with myself. He ran his fingers through my hair and held just tight enough . . . Just such that I could move my head a little but I couldn't unlock from my own eyes. I sat there...

The Unexpected Codependency

Today I want to talk about the upside-down side of "codependency". It's that side where you feel you have to take care of yourself to guard someone else and protect the security (read: false sense of) in a relationship. It's the times where you step back from your truth or stating your needs because of the nature of a relationship, the duration of one, etc. 

When I very first started...

My Responsibility as a Sub

I hear people talk a lot about how the sub holds all the power (true), and how one can only be as dominant as their sub is willing to submit (also true). The Dom has a job to create an environment of safety and security, to know their Sub, to intuit their desires and limits and help create w...

What’s Dixie Doing?

Bath time 🛀 for this lil kitten (not all cats are scared of water 😸). Friday I saw my trainer, rode a horse for an hour and the Saturday I worked at the barn for four hours so I am sore and in need of some self care.

Currently reading: Return of the Trickster by Eden Robinson

P.S. become my bestie for more bathtub pics 😽😻

Neurodivergence & the Birthday Struggle

I've never much liked birthdays. I never really knew why, but I knew that when they came up is when I felt the most alone in life - Like I was on the outside of a thick pane of glass watching everyone else play the coolest game ever and I was the only one who had not been given the instructions. 

It wasn't the getting older, though. That has never really phased me . . . something abo...

Gettin' to Know Dixie - Ten Fun Facts About Me!

1. I realized this year that I am on the autism spectrum (ASD) and also have been living with ADHD my entire life. 

2. When I was eight years old I got hit with a golf club (accident) under my left eye and had to get stitches, but no one ever hardly notices because I have a dimple in the exa...

Consent Isn't Just for S*x

In an online community I facilitate, we have a community guideline that reads: Consent is. 

Full f*cking stop. 

Perhaps you've heard the phrase "consent is s*xy" before? I have, and while I appreciate the intent the impact can be highly problematic. Here's why: 

• This is often taken to imply that the only level of consent is a "yes"; 
• It impli...
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Who is Lil Kitten Dixie?

Y'a know it's funny . . . As I wrote the title I realized that even though she is me, I am very much still getting to know her. I had this conversation with a friend recently on the topic of gender, and how someone they knew was seemingly changing their mind quite frequently. I responded with the query: Are they changing their mind or are they simply getting to know themselves more and more eac...